Working on New Year Re(Solutions) through Values Clarification

For the last in our series on values, we want to talk about common topic that’s discussed this time of year, but with a bit of a spin. No more resolutions, only solutions. So, how do you get there? Start with identifying your values. We’ve already discussed understanding the connection between values and anxiety, as well as overcoming fear through values clarification. This blog will hopefully bring it all full circle and delve deeper into values in general. Let’s talk about why identifying your own values is helpful and might give you a little motivation to get started thinking about how you can apply these to different areas of your life if you haven’t already.

Why Values are Crucial for Personal Fulfillment

I’ve come to realize that values are the compass that guide us through life, helping us make choices and find meaning. Without them, we’re simply going with the flow, allowing circumstances or others’ opinions to dictate our actions. But when we take the time to identify and uphold our values, we create a foundation for personal fulfillment.


Values give us a sense of purpose and direction. They serve as a reminder of what truly matters to us and act as a filter when making decisions. For instance, if one of my core values is honesty, I know that I won’t compromise my integrity no matter what temptations arise. This consistency brings an unparalleled sense of personal fulfillment because it aligns our actions with our innermost beliefs.


Living according to our values leads to authenticity—a state where we can be true to ourselves without pretense or façade. When we embrace who we are at the core by honoring our values, our interactions with others become more genuine and relationships deepen in meaning. It’s this authenticity that allows us to show up fully in the world as ourselves—flaws included—and fosters connections based on mutual respect and understanding.


Values are the bedrock for personal fulfillment. By knowing what drives us at our very core and consistently acting upon those principles, we live lives informed with purposeful choices and authentic connections. Don’t underestimate the power of values; they have the potential to transform your entire outlook on life in ways you never thought possible!

Benefits of Clarifying Your Values

One of the major benefits of clarifying your values is gaining a better sense of self-awareness. When you take the time to identify and prioritize what truly matters to you, it becomes easier to make decisions that align with your authentic self. By understanding your values, you begin to understand who you are at your core and what brings you fulfillment and happiness in life.


Another advantage of clarifying your values is increased focus and direction. Having a clear understanding of what is important to you allows you to set meaningful goals that are in line with your values. It helps eliminate distractions and enables you to concentrate on activities that support and enhance those values. This focus can lead to greater achievement, satisfaction, and overall success in both personal and professional areas of life.


Moreover, clarifying your values can improve relationships with others. When we communicate our values effectively, it becomes easier for others to understand us on a deeper level. It also facilitates more meaningful connections with people who share similar values or have a greater appreciation for our unique perspective. By being true to ourselves through lived-out values, we attract people who appreciate us for who we are, fostering genuine relationships based on mutual respect and understanding.


When we clarify our values, we gain self-awareness, increased focus, and direction in life., as well as better relationships with others. Taking the time to determine what really matters helps us live an authentic life where choices align with our principles ultimately leading us toward fulfillment- it’s like finding a compass.

new years therapy.

How to Clarify Your Values Effectively

As I embarked on my journey of clarifying my values, I discovered three steps that proved to be crucial in the process. Firstly, I had to take a step back and reflect on my experiences and beliefs. This involved analyzing both the positive and negative aspects of my life and identifying patterns or recurring themes. By doing so, I was able to gain a deeper understanding of myself and uncover what truly mattered to me.


Next, it was important for me to prioritize my values based on their significance in my life. While every value is respected in its own right, some hold more weight than others. This step required honest self-reflection and introspection as I evaluated which values aligned most closely with who I wanted to be as an individual.


Lastly, it was essential for me to align my actions with my identified values. It’s not enough to simply clarify our values; we must also live them out daily. This meant making intentional choices that reflected what truly mattered to me. It required patience and discipline but ultimately led to a more fulfilling life where I felt true alignment with my core beliefs.


I can promise that clarifying one’s values is a transformative process that requires reflection, prioritization, and action. By taking the time to analyze our experiences, identify recurring themes, prioritize our core values based on importance, and align our actions accordingly, we can create a sense of purpose and fulfillment in our lives.

Applying Your Values in Everyday Life

Every day, I strive to apply my values in all that I do, no matter how big or small the task may seem. One of my core values is kindness, and I try to practice it not just towards others but also towards myself. It’s easy to get caught up in the fast-paced nature of life and forget about taking care of oneself. But by reminding myself that self-care is just as important as caring for others, I am able to make choices that prioritize my well-being.


Another value that guides me daily is honesty. In a world where deception often seems easier, being honest can be challenging at times. However, it’s important for me to remember that being true to myself and others brings a sense of authenticity and trust into my relationships. By speaking with integrity and living honestly, I create an environment around me where openness is valued, and genuine connections can flourish.


Applying our values in everyday life requires commitment and conscious effort. It means making intentional decisions that align with what we hold dear. Whether it’s expressing gratitude, practicing patience, or standing up for what we believe in, incorporating our values into our daily routine can bring us closer to leading a purposeful and fulfilling life.

Embrace Your Values for a More Meaningful Life

As I reflect on my journey towards living a more meaningful life, I’ve come to realize that the key lies in embracing my own values. It’s easy to get caught up in societal expectations and the pressures of others’ opinions, but when we lose sight of our own beliefs, we lose touch with our deepest selves. Embracing our values means making conscious choices based on what truly matters to us, even if it goes against the grain.


In a world that is constantly changing and evolving, holding onto our values can provide us with stability and a sense of purpose. Our values guide us in making decisions aligned with who we are at our core. They remind us of what truly fulfills us rather than succumbing to external pressures or fleeting trends. When we embrace our values, we live authentically and create a life that is genuine and true to ourselves. By staying connected to what truly matters to us, we find deeper satisfaction and fulfillment in all aspects of life.


Ultimately, embracing our values leads to a more meaningful existence because it allows us to focus on what really matters instead of getting caught up in distractions or trying to please others. When we align the way we live with our core beliefs, there is an inherent sense of peace and contentment that comes from living authentically. So, let’s take a moment today and ask ourselves:


  • What are my most cherished values?
  • How can I honor them by making conscious choices each day?

New Year’s Solutions Through Values

New Year's resolution mental health therapy in Scottsdale.


By embracing these principles wholeheartedly, we can live a value driven life. So many people every January will write down their New Year’s Resolutions and while there’s nothing wrong with that, I encourage you to take a different approach this year and aim for actionable solutions in the form of clarifying your values. Whether you want to overcome fear, get a handle on your anxiety, or just live life more authentically and become more self-aware – clarifying your values is a great place to start. We’re here to help you talk through this here at MUV Counseling in Scottsdale. Sometimes just saying things out loud is all you need. Call us today to get started.


Selena Soni, LCSW Scottsdale therapist for anxiety, depression, stress and life transitions.
Selena Soni, LCSW is the founder and lead therapist at MUV Counseling. She specializes in helping clients overcome loss of self, anxiety, depression, and life transitions.

Selena has 15+ years experience in the mental health field. She received her Bachelors Degree from Portland State University (1999) and a Masters Degree in Social Work from Arizona State University (2005). Learn more about Selena here.

Get in Touch!

We’re Open:
Tuesday 9:30AM–7PM
Wednesday 9AM–6PM
Thursday 12–4PM
Friday 9:30AM–7PM

Call Us @

Find Us @
7420 E. Camelback Road
Suite #103, Scottsdale, AZ 85251

Get Social @